Sunday, October 10, 2010

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Jean says: We started out bright and early Friday morning at the Metropolitan Museum, moved to the Metropolitan Pavilion in the afternoon and eventually ended up at a performance at the Joyce Theater later that evening. But I'm getting ahead of myself ...

Valerie says: This month, scheduling a meeting with Jean has been like scheduling a meeting with the president. We both work, so usually we have to fit our play around our work schedules. As it happened, there was so much play to be done that we realized the only way to accomplish all our goals was to take a day off, which we did this past Friday. First stop: a tour of Big Bambu, a spectacular human-scale bird’s nest kind of brilliantly chaotic affair created by identical twin artists Doug and Mike Starn, now on view on the roof of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. For more on Big Bambu from the Metropolitan, click here; for the Starn brothers’ own website, click here.

Anyone can see the ground level of Big Bambu by going up to the roof, but the thirty minute tours to the top of the bamboo construction are by reservation only, and reservations are by standing on long lines only. So, on the advice of the Museum, we took our place on line at 8:50am in hopes of making the first of the half hourly tours at 10am. Here's Jean on the short line ahead of us. The limit was something like 14 people per tour.

To get there as early as possible, I brought my breakfast with me. FOUR - count 'em - FOUR yummy dark chocolate Afrika cookies by Bahlsen, and a banana. To paraphrase Freud, sometimes a banana is just a banana, especially if it references your earrings. (Matchy matchy!)



There were just enough people on line before us to prevent us from making the first tour, so we had to content ourselves with seeing a bit of the Khubilai Khan exhibition first. (Left is the line behind us.) At 10:15, arriving as scheduled, we were told to put ALL our belongings in a locker. Our shoes were inspected to see that they were safe for the tour (in a later photo you'll see I've changed mine), and Jean and I were politely and obliquely told to remove our hats. Cameras were not allowed, and we were even advised to take off our museum buttons for safekeeping, so we wouldn’t lose them and be confronted later, in our buttonlessness, by alert guards. No one thought to have us take off our earrings, interestingly. I didn’t understand about the hats, frankly – they don’t forbid basketball players, after all, and my hat and I are only about 5’9” together, if I’m standing straight. (Jean’s hat, with its Edwardian-length plucked and hook-like plume, admittedly might have been more of an issue.) We felt naked without our hats, but no one else on the tour seemed to notice how scandalously dressed we were. (Jean says: Without my hat, I felt like Samson, who lost his strength when his hair was shorn.)

The tour was wonderful and informative, and the weather perfect. For me, two of the most interesting tidbits were that when the Starn brothers applied to college, they submitted a single portfolio for both brothers, as they see themselves as that close a unit. The other tidbit was that Big Bambu, still under construction (it closes on October 31st), is being put together with the assistance of rock climbers, who are experienced in climbing and tying secure knots. Bamboo is still widely used as a construction material in Asia (particularly for scaffolding), and the brothers could have used experts in bamboo construction. They decided against that because they wanted to use people without preconceived notions on the best procedures. The snaking design you see on the pathway above looks lyrical, but has a practical side: it is intended to help keep walkers from slipping. (Jean says: The nylon climbing rope used to secure the bamboo poles was intentionally brightly colored. Like the Starn brothers' early photo-collages which used highly visible scotch tape to secure the images together, the knots of climbing rope secure the Big Bambu.)

While we were up there, we could see construction from a distance. (If you click on this photo, the blob in the center changes into rock climbers.) There were five or six men, and at least one woman. Our guide said the Starn brothers advertised in rock climbers’ magazines. (Jean says: Their prototype version of Big Bambu was constructed in their studio in Beacon, New York, near a lot of local rock climbing sites. Many of the same individuals who worked on that piece have come to Manhattan to construct their latest creation.)

Like most women our age, Jean and I were raised to be obedient, and like many women our age we think it’s time for a little rebellion. So when we were told not to bring our cameras, we felt compelled to disobey. And how could we not, given the unique view offered by Big Bambu, and the transitory nature of the construction? So we snapped these few pictures. (Jean says: The piece had grown visibly since our previous visit when it towered about 40 feet above the Museum's roof. An additional 30 feet have since been added, including this area called the "living room" in which the climbers had constructed benches on which to rest and hang out with each other.)

We tried to keep a low profile, but one woman, somewhat older than we, asked quite loudly in front of another guide “HEY, HOW DID YOU MANAGE TO BRING YOUR CAMERA UP HERE?" Then, to drive home her point, she continued, while smiling benignly, “YOU CHEATED!”, more or less forcing the guide to make us stop. Jean and I are of two minds as to whether she was merely blurting out her thoughts without considering the consequences, or whether she deliberately intended to spoil the moment for us, since she hadn't smuggled her own camera up. (Jean says: I tend to opt for the latter explanation.)

Technically, of course, she was right, and I suppose the rules are meant to protect people below from having a camera accidentally dropped on them. But we also feel a little bad for this woman, who seems to have bought into all the good girl stuff hook, line and sinker. Bet she never wears white after Labor Day. (Jean says: Don't get me started!)

Here's a great detail picture we took with our contravening camera. It looks chaotic, but there's a method to the madness.

















These two photos, taken from ground level on the roof, give you some idea of the size and shape of the maze we toured. Jean, the black exclamation point in the center of the photo on the right, provides some perspective. Jean says: When viewed from above, the top of the piece looks like crashing waves. Nothing is flat and straight, everything is curving up or down, creating the illusion of motion.

The day we were there, both Starn brothers were on hand. Here’s Jean, engaging brother Doug in conversation. Brother Mike was there as well, wearing a suit jacket, but we ran out of gumption, and didn’t stop him for a photo op. (Jean says: I pulled my usual celebrity stalker routine and used my usual line: "We love your work." Fellow stalkers, as I have previously instructed, never say "I", always say "we" because it sounds less personal and less threatening. Here I am, moving in for the kill... Seriously, both brothers were absolutely charming. They were up on the installation while we were there, checking on progress and chatting with the industrious rock-climbers who were all visibily involved in tying new bamboo poles to the structure to create additional height. Construction will actually continue until Halloween, the day the exhibit closes. They anticipate that it will take up to two months to dismantle everything.)

After Big Bambu, we stopped at Valerie's apartment for a visit with her fabulous feline, Clementine. As you can see, Valerie starves the poor thing! After a quick snack (Naked Juice for Valerie and yogurt for me), we jumped in a cab for our second destination of the day: the Manhattan Vintage Clothing Show. Because we thought we'd made plans to meet Tziporah at the Metropolitan Pavilion when the doors opened at 1 PM, we rushed so we wouldn't keep her waiting! Somewhere along the way, the wires had apparently gotten crossed. By the time Tziporah arrived at 3:30 PM, we'd already managed to check out most of the vendors.

We'd barely entered the show when we ran into Tim John, whom I hadn't seen since the Easter Parade and cocktails at MOMA. He was rocking a black and white look, wearing a white skirt under a Japanese man's silk shibori heko obi (soft silk sash) as a shirt that he'd cut and sewn himself, with a tank top and skull cap. I told Tim I'd recently described the job title inscribed on his business card ("Creator") to a friend who'd found it as hilarious as I did.

Whom should we run into next but the wonderful Lynn Yeager! Besides the recent New York Times Style Magazine "T" article, she is writing a lot for Vogue these days. Since 1920's clothing from the new HBO series "Boardwalk Empire" was featured in the lobby exhibition and in the catalog for the Vintage Clothing Show, Lynn was right in style with her flame-red flapper bob, burgundy bee-stung lips and crimson rouged cheeks! It is always a treat to see her and what she's wearing.

Our next stop in our tour of favorite vendors was Karen McWharter's booth. Karen always has a great selection of handbags, or what my mother used to call "pocket books", as well as jewelry, dresses and coats. Her booth is always beautiful arranged and easy to maneuver in.



I discovered this great pair of square red plastic earrings described on the tag as "funky 80s" at Icon Style (www.iconstyle.net). The price was right, so they came home with me.

About half-way through the show, we ran into Tim John again, walking around in what my mother used to call "a state" (as in "He was in quite a state when he drove that bus off the mountain."). Tim had found the most spectacularly beautiful black Issey Miyake full pleated skirt about which he was engaging in that inner dialogue (Should I?/Shouldn't I?). When he offered to show us the object of his obsession, we were more than willing enablers. Of course, he gave into his inner demons and eventually took the plunge, doing his part to support the local economy. (Valerie says: we helped by playfully badgering the dealer to lower his price from astronomical to merely stratospheric.)

It turns out that Tim's skirt was in a very interesting booth run by Scout, a Hollywood, CA vendor (www.scoutla.net) with some of the most interesting inventory and interestingly dressed sales staff in the show, which was quite an accomplishment on both fronts. While we were in Scout's booth with Tim, my fashion A-D-D took over and I found myself pawing through the racks while Tim was trying to mentally, spiritually and financially justify the Miyake pleated skirt. Lo and behold, what did I spy? None other than a red Betsey Johnson 1990s cropped wool cardigan sweater emblazoned with black skulls. And thus I began my own inner/outer dialogue of justification. Check out "Cropped Sweaters and How to Wear 'Em!" @ www.Refinery29.com.

The "one size fits all" label on the red sweater is overly positive. As my friend Louie likes to point out, "one size fits most". (Valerie agrees: It barely fit svelte Jean; I doubt I could have gotten my entire arm into one of the sleeves.)




After Tziporah arrived and had a chance to cruise the show, we met at the cafe to catch up and compare notes. She was a vision in pink, from her petal hat, scarf, quilted oriental jacket and silk pajamas to her kitten-heel mules and satin drawstring bag.

The next Manhattan Vintage Clothing show is February 4 & 5, 2011. For more info, go to www.manhattanvintage.com.



Jean says: Two down and one to go!
Valerie says: When I heard that the Japanese dance troupe Sankai Juku was coming to town, I rushed to buy my ticket. Knowing that Jean is a former dancer and remains an aficionada, I had to buy a ticket for her too, so she could sample it. We wound up with fourth row center seats. (These first two photographs from earlier Sankai Juku productions; photo from The Egg and I by Alan Eglinton.)


Of all the things I left behind when I left Japan, Nihon Butoh – a form of dance that defies accurate description – is one of the things I miss the most. Anyone familiar with Japanese art has seen its fabulous renderings of ghosts and demons. They are awesome (not in the California sense of the word), terrifying, disorienting, mystical, incomprehensible and grotesque, yet at the same time they are difficult to turn away from. While some performances of Nihon Butoh are dreamlike, others can evoke the union of classical Japanese demons and 20th century nightmares, and the landscape through which they dance could have been painted by Heironymous Bosch. The dancers almost always have shaven heads. They wear minimal costumes and cover themselves from head to toe in white powder, which flies off in dramatic clouds when the dancers make sudden movements.

Butoh rose from the ashes of WWII, and its images are often discomfiting, but riveting. The western dance lexicon is entirely absent, and the viewer strains to understand the presentation. Lacking understanding, one is forced to simply enjoy and contemplate and wonder, and take away something very personal and thought-provoking from the experience. “Oklahoma, where the winds come whistling down the plains” it’s not.

The piece we saw, Tobari, was not as raw or as stark as many as the works that preceded it over the past several decades, but still quite fascinating. (This photo by Andrea Mohin for the New York Times. Click here to read the New York Times review by Roslyn Sulcas.)

For best effect, Butoh needs to build up over the course of many minutes, so this clip from the Joyce Theater, which shows several brief snippets from Tobari, is not nearly adequate to give you an idea, but it’s a start.

In searching the internet, I came across a longer clip from an earlier piece (click here to see that), as well as a short video showing very brief Sankai Juku clips all strung together. The selection of the several short videos dates back to 1986, and is an allusion to a horrific accident that killed a Sankai Juku dancer during a Seattle performance in 1985.


For more on butoh, look in Google Videos for such names as Tatsumi Hijikata (the father of Butoh, who died in 1985),







Dairakudakan (one of the best troupes still active, which performs on occasion at Japan Society),








Min Tanaka (who danced in Julie Taymor’s version of Oedipus Rex, a stunning opera featuring Jessye Norman), and



Kazuo Ohno, one of the founding figures of Butoh, who died earlier this year at the age of 103, and performed well into his 90s (shown here with his son, also a professional Butoh dancer).








And, in the end...


Jean says: Rule number one in subway photo shoots: Don't lean on any of the walls or poles and don't touch anything!








After the show at the Joyce, we walked to the E train station at 16th St and 8th Avenue, where Valerie went to the uptown and I to the downtown platform. Even though we'd started our adventure over 13 hours earlier, we were both still amazingly energized. As Valerie's train pulled into the station first, I got this shot across the tracks of her waving adios just before the doors closed.


When I told Valerie I was including the shots I took on the subway platform and she asked about the one with her face smashed against the glass, I gleefully told her it did come out. (You'll probably have to click on the photo to confirm that.) One can only imagine what her fellow riders thought of the rather colorfully dressed woman in the turban who had her face pressed against the subway door! Valerie says: More than forty years after its debut, I am still stuck on the graphics for the Rolling Stones Through the Past Darkly album. Smushing my face against the window for a photo is my form of a tribute.



Valerie is wearing: a vintage velvet red and yellow turban labeled Best & Co. New York Fifth Avenue; vintage plastic fruit earrings; vintage yellow and orange polka dot jacket by Missoni, knitted bracelet of unknown material, vintage plastic and metal circles and squares bracelet, Gustav Klimt-inspired orange polyester shirt by JuanSilk New York, unlabeled vintage red suede harem pants. Red sandals worn on line, whose heels after fewer than ten wears are already severely worn down, by Nicole; unlabeled sturdy rubber and cotton mola shoes for climbing Big Bambu from Pan American Phoenix.

Jean is wearing: a black straw Ignatius hat, Kyodan jacket, vintage black Bakelite necklace and rings, deco black with white dots Bakelite dice earrings, Brigitte harem pants, Ralph Lauren neoprene slip on training shoes (for traction on Big Bambu) and black patent coin purse from Enz.

Attention, Mr. and Mrs. America and all the ships at sea! Dumpling Diva alert! Marja Samsom will be "cooking up a storm" on CHOPPED on the Food Channel on Tuesday, October 19th. For a real treat, be sure to tune in and/or set your Tivos!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

The Secret Powers Of Time

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future.

Or as The Dog Whisper Cesar Millan says..."Live in the now."

Know why dogs are so happy? Because they have no concept of time. They don’t care about the past. They don’t worry about the future. They live in the present moment, blissfully. Know why humans are so miserable? Because we obsess over time! We try to rush time. We try to slow time down. Sometimes we waste time and other times we attempt to squeeze every little drop out of time. When was the last time you looked at a clock and were truly happy with the reading? Is there ever a time when you aren’t wishing you could rearrange the hands on that clock just a little? Think you’re not obsessed with time? Then try this experiment. Go one full day without ever checking to see what time it is. It will drive you insane!


Time is our most valuable possession. We are obsessed with clocks, calendars, schedules, To-Do lists and multitasking. Still, people spend time less wisely than money. The way we perceive time is as unique as our fingerprints. Our time zones interact to create national cultures and economies. Where you live in the world and your religion shape how you perceive time. Every significant choice we make, every important decision, is determined by our perspective on time. It can dictate our success in school. It can sabotage our career or help us gain a promotion. It can affect our health and finances. It can influence our relationships with friends and loved ones. It even has the power to make us happy, or not. Yet we are virtually unaware of its effects.

University of Stanford Psychology Professor and author of "The Time Paradox," Philip Zimbardo, draws on 30 years of pioneering research to reveal how your individual time perspective shapes your life and is shaped by the world around you. Professor Zimbardo’s original classroom-style lecture on the secret powers of time is nearly an hour long, but most people aren’t willing to spend that amount of their "time" soaking in such wisdom. So instead the lecture has been greatly condensed into just 10 minutes and animated for a YouTube audience. Are you catching the irony here?

It's time to reclaim yesterday, enjoy today, and master tomorrow. So do your life and your sanity a favor, take 10 minutes out of your day right now to watch this video. It’s for those that are too focused on the past - those that are wrapped up in nostalgia and memories and dwell on regret and failure. It’s for those that are too focused on the present - Hedonistics that live for pleasure and avoid pain and Fate Sayers that say it doesn’t pay to plan, that life is fated. And it’s for those that are too focused on the future - the workaholics and worry warts. In short, it's for every one of us whose mind is imprisoned by time.

It's time to break free.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Man Walking Down the Side of a Building












Jean says: This past Saturday afternoon at 1:30 PM, Valerie and I watched my friend Stephen Petronio walk down the wall of the Whitney Museum, recreating choreographer Trisha Brown's 1970 work aptly titled "Man Walking Down the Side of a Building". These pictures, shot from across 75th Street, give you a sense of the height of the Whitney - and the drama of the spectacle. The metal structure seen at the top was constructed as the launching pad for the piece. These photos provide some perspective on the situation and how it looked to those of us on the ground.

The Whitney is an imposing monolithic structure. From the street, the metal launching platform looked like a tiny erector set. Saturday's spectacular sunny, cool, crisp weather was the perfect backdrop.

















In the 1970s, Trisha Brown utilized radical gymnastic choreography in a series of Equipment Pieces employing implements and devices such as the cables and harnesses. Needless to say, when Stephen appeared on the platform and launched outward, wearing a simple harness attached to cables in order to be perpendicular to the building, he looked like a cross between a high wire act and some demonic SWAT team member about to rappel into Gotham.

In engaging in ordinary movements such as walking in an extrordinary setting on the side of a New York institution, Stephen literally made traffic and pedestrians stand still. Of course, no one can make them stop talking on their cell phones, but they were at least looking skyward while they chatted.













According to the Whitney Museum's program, by creating striking and at times dangerous situations, Trisha Brown engages her audience in a form of participatory theater. No shit, Sherlock. Nothing brings a crowd of New Yorkers together better than public spectacle. Like the Romans, we love bread and circuses. The crowd was a mix. Half of them were very informed individuals who knew all about Trisha Brown and Stephen Petronio and were fully engaged in the Whitney's program, "Off the Wall Part 2 - Seven Works by Trisha Brown" and the other half were totaly uninformed gawkers, caught up in the sheer joy of the moment.












Watching Stephen's movements was a little disorienting. His nonchalant stroll challenged the traditional notions of gravity and space.

Here's Stephen and his #1 fan. Back on terra firma, he seemed very relaxed. This was, of course, only his first of two Saturday performances. He would repeat the walk at 5 PM and then leave all of this behind for awhile while he and his company start their European tour: two weeks in London followed by two weeks in Milan. Check out the minimal harness equipment he's wearing.

Craig Hensela, a member of the Stephen Petronio Company (SPC) Board, who organized SPC's highly successful art auction last year at Milk Gallery, is on the right in the photo, along with Ms. Valerie and his friend Cristobal.




Clare Flack, another SPC Board member, plays court photographer to memorialize the occasion. Stephen last performed this piece in the 1980s. Who knows when he'll reprise the role again?







Here's a shot of the crowd on 75th Street waiting for the show to start. Naturalists among our readership will notice that Valerie does not believe in the theory of protective coloration to blend in with her surroundings. I never know what she'll show up in, but I'm always confident I'll spot her in the crowd.

Speaking of hard to miss, none other than the Dumpling Diva herself, Marja Samsom, joined us for the festivities. She was rocking an ecclectic look of black and white striped chef pants, yellow messenger bag, black nylon jacket lined in yellow mesh, blue hooded sweater with vintage style figures, black T shirt, white scarf with black polka dots, and black leather lace-up booties that she bought a size too large to give her "that Olive look" -- as in Oyl, Popeye's girlfriend.

Here are a couple of closeups of the two of them at the corner of Madison Avenue and 75th Street and then further south on Madison Avenue. As you can see, they have distinctive but quite different styles.













We passed a plastic topiary, and couldn't resist taking advantage of a silly photo op. The topiary were hilariously shaped. They were set securely in boxes, surrounded by shiny black river stones. It was somehow not surprising that the stones were all glued down. How New York!

Valerie says: Following a bite to eat, we popped into Barney's, when who should we run into but Suzanne Golden (whose every item of clothing we covet)? We had a short chat, during which Suzanne told us that she will be one of the sixty artists featured in "Loot", the Museum of Arts and Design's upcoming biennial exhibition and sale, which will open on Thursday, October 21 and run through October 26. If you possibly can, you should have a look. Suzanne's bead work is like no one else's. It's daring, playful, challenging and beautifully color coordinated.

While catching up, we noticed we were all wearing combat boots. Here we are going toe to toe for the fun of it. In the center is a blue rubber ball with wobbly red spirals we found napping by a Madison Avenue boutique. Some unfortunate child's loss became our gain. Jean says: Suzanne and I were both sporting Doc Martens lace-ups, she in lipstick red and I in leopard print.

Jean says: I was unsuccessful in adjusting the color in this photo, so I'm calling it "the golden Golden shot"!

Valerie says: And then, being the Very Busy People we are, we all went off to take care of the Very Important Business that unfortunately separates us most of the time, and that makes these short interludes all the more enjoyable when they happen.




Valerie is wearing: a blue felt hat painted poison green by Francine Gintoff, who also added three black metal cartouches with gold portraits to it; handmade polymer earrings by Elke Kuhn, reminiscent of mosaic glass face beads of the Roman imperial age; a reversible vintage green Himalayan lamb vest with handpainted interior; a vintage Peplum by Yoshiki Hishinuma polyester shirt; Cavaricci black cotton pants; and camouflage combat boots with rubber 'spikes' - the label is unfortunately illegible. Here are the earrings and the shirt. If you know the maker of the earrings, let me know. (She didn't have a business card that day.) If you click on the photo, you can see lots of little holes in the shirt. That's a sign of heat-set shibori.

Jean is wearing a vintage straw hat embellished with her bakelite domino pin, Vivienne Tam nylon T-shirt, Kyodan peplum jacket, H&M cotton baggies -- all in black -- and leopard print Doc Martens boots.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

iPads in Pompeii

A recent story on Apple Computer’s website reports on the use of iPads and related software in the University of Cincinnati's excavations of Pompeii. Not only do the hand-held devices help with recording data and artifacts into a master database, but also help with GPS/GIS locations, drawings, photographs and other aspects of recording an active excavation. The researchers cite the iPad's ease of use and ability to take the harsh conditions of the field.

iPads and other handheld devices have also found their way into excavations and analytical studies. Most excavations now use GPS devices regularly. Many types of portable instrumentation also now use PDAs as an integrated part of the hand held device, such as in the Bruker Tracer III-V PXRF. What other changes to archaeological science come from hand-held technologies? Would 4 iPads in Pompeii be ivPads?

Thanks to the OzArch listserv for this recent news story and lots of comments on the merits and downsides of technology in archaeological excavations.

Life Just Got Funner

"The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind. The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday." - Baz Luhrmann

I knew the situation had the potential of turning very serious, very fast. And even though it was a short 2 hour flight, it seemed excruciatingly long! Unable to comfort myself, I fidgeted restlessly in my seat. My baby blue dress shirt made an effort to sooth me with a hug, but it squeezed too tightly, causing beads of perspiration to emerge on my forehead. Gasping for air, I popped open the top three buttons, realizing I misread the strangulation attempt as a loving embrace. With each passing minute, my anxiety and frustration only continued to intensify. The knots in my neck spread across my shoulders and rippled down my back like contagious stress cancer plaguing the body of a grief sickened widow. During one particularly fidgety fit, my knees pierced into the soft spine of passenger 22B. That’s when it became clear, I was infecting everyone around me. I was diseased. And my mind was the vessel responsible for pumping out the rotten poison.

My mind began running away from me, as if often does. Picking up momentum with each depressing thought that cascaded into the next. I lassoed it just before it wondered too far off. Into those dark isolated valleys where grim "what if" questions are whispered in the gulps of icy cold babbling brooks and echoed behind shadowy damp willow trees. I refused to chase it into those menacing woods again. So I began pounding good thoughts into my head and carefully guarded grave scenarios from entering my overactive brain that was already saturated with sadness. But there is no way I would allow this story to play out like a bad, overly dramatic Lifetime movie premier. Well, with one exception. It had to have a happy ending. It just had to.

The call actually did come on an idle Tuesday, but it was a little past 4pm. It’s the kind of call you never expect and the kind of call you never wish to receive. The kind of call that had me leaving a business trip in DC to catch the first flight back home. My sister had been admitted to the emergency room for a ruptured appendix. Having your appendix rupture is not uncommon...and neither is dying from it. I had my own scare with it back in June. But nothing scared me more then when my 4-year-old nephew asked me point blank, "If Mommy has surgery, is she going to die?"

I was in the midst of trying to answer that frightening question and tripping over my tongue when my 6-year-old niece came running towards me when I entered the waiting room. "Uncle D!," she always screams it like I’m an A-list celebrity walking the red carpet for the very first time. Then she hugs my knees. And with a big smile on both of our faces, I scoop her up.

Me: "Hey Peanut! You look pretty in your pink butterfly tee. How are you doing?"
Her: "I’m good. Mamma’s sick."

She wastes no time in informing me of the obvious. And I waste no time in telling her I heard and that’s why I flew home. We pass the time by turning the backs of my business cards into miniature "Get Well Soon" cards. We pass more time drawing mustaches on supermodels in last year’s copy of Vogue magazine and doodling flowery skirts on pro athletes in this month’s copy of Sports Illustrated. We play Eye-Spy in the hospital halls, tease her about what doctor she is one day going to marry and practice our super secret hand shake. None of these activities would normally rank very high on a kid’s fun factor scale. But despite the limited resources and the gray situation at hand, my parents point out that somehow I always manage to make her face light up. My niece confirms this observation when she turns to me and says...

"I’m happy you’re here. You make everything funner."

And sometimes that’s all we need. A little giggle and an entertaining distraction to help us temporarily forget the real troubles of life, the kind that blindside you on some idle Tuesday.

Who makes your life funner?



***NOTE***
Related post of interest by Nicole Antoinette from More Is Better
5 days in denver, 5 days in a hospital, and the things that actually matter